Do you guys think it’s only one person for you? If you aren’t with this person, no one else will fit perfectly.
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Do we need drama to make relationships work?
Why do we expect the worst from life? We make statements like “things are going to good or I knew it was too good to be true”.
Do you ever wonder about the things you pray for? For example, “God I want a promotion”. In order for me to get the promotion does someone have to be demoted, fired or find a new job so that I can get the promotion I’m praying for.
The desire of feeling good enough can be the worst, can it not? Trying to receive that validation is so important to us
Pride goes before destruction is one of the truest statements I’ve heard in awhile. Pride is such a subtle deceit.
Doesn’t love go beyond how someone makes you feel? It’s so much deeper than that. Feeling change people
Is it not strange that love is the only thing God requires perfection in? That speaks volume does it not?
I have to get to the root of this anger. There is more going on than people doing simply things to piss me off. Something is lying dormant in me and it’s the driving force behind my current anger.
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Lawd, I wish u woulda numbered these questions. i'm about to number them for u...
1) No. There can be many people for you. Some better, some worse, hopefully you find one of them.
2) Yeah.
3) It's never too soon or too long to have sex. If u and the other person wanna have, then have. 1 minute, 1 day, 1 year, whatever...
4) Just simnply say "Let's not talk about that day u were actin' a dayum fool..."
5) There was one upscale club/lounge here in NYC that didnt have a whole bunc of geriatrics, but now it seems the knucklers and buckler have taken over.
6) HELL NO!
7) It's in the human DNA to expect the worst. We have to learn to deal with it.
8) Maybe they deserved to get fired and then that would leave them open to get a better job. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction... aight, Mr. Existential-Man.
9) Yeah it sucks and us gays suffer from it the worst.
10) As a very proud person... no comment. LOL
11) True.
12) True.
13) Ur probably just horny... LOL
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There are as many or as few people that will be a perfect fit for you as you allow. For years I believed there was only one man for me, in the end, so did he…it just wasn’t me. LOL Long story short, you’ve got to dust yourself off and keep it moving. Not everyone is a jaded, cheating, lying, deceitful piece of shit. If that were the case, what could be said about you? So, as gloomy as it appears on some days, let the sun shine through because your last opportunity to find your “true” love is when “they” look at you and say, “Time of death, 6:19 p.m.” Everyone needs different things to make their relationships work – some even need drama – but what works is as individual as your sense of style or your eye color.
Now as for this anger thing… pa, I was there at one point. The reality is that if you feel everyone is upsetting you, setting you off and sending your over the edge – chances are the problem is YOU. Take a breather. Recognize a few things:
1. The world is not against you and conversely, does not revolve around you.
2. You are healthy, young and beautiful – what the fuck are you so angry about?
3. You know how you walk by that angry homeless guy and wonder, “I wonder what he was like when he was younger?” Well pa, he was you without a blogger family to tell him to brighten the fuck up and realize everything’s coming up roses and you’re busy picking the weeds!
Now the next comment might be seen as a bit controversial, but I’m Puerto Rican, so we don’t associate sex and love (LOL)…there is NO timeframe (short or long) before sex can occur. Do it when it feels right to you…moments after you meet the brotha; two months after you have his mom for dinner; after your Vermont wedding; as long as you’re okay with how it makes you feel it doesn’t matter. ..and don’t ask me how long I wait, because I’ve seen hungry cheetah moms chase a gazelle at a slower pace. :)
1. No don't think there is one person out there for you. If there was, why do people remarry after long marriages?
2. Yes There are many things that present themselves to me and I think that if it wasn't for my belief i would be alot richer or in jail! lol Might not be as optimistic either!
3. I dont think there is any set amount of time. People meet up only for sex and it is what it is... There are some people that value themselves and are very conservative and will not have sex until they enter a marriage.
4. I think you should enter any friendship 100% honestly. Even if it is rekindling a friendship.
5. I have no idea, I am not from atlanta. Possibly look for a gay lounge or cafe.
6. I dont think so. Sometimes drama MAY keep it going, but most of the time drama tears relationships apart! thats just me speaking.
7. I believe the majority of people like to expect the best but be prepared for the worst. I am very optimistic but i like to know what can go wrong so it doesn't hit me and I fall flat on my face. (embarrasing!)
8. Not all fortune comes at someone else's misfortune. You never know why some things happen. Take things as they are and keep it moving.
9. Everyone likes to believe they are good, if not great at something. When there is interest and emotion behind something, then that feeling of "good enough" becomes worse.
10. I dont know what to say about the pride thing besides that pride in little amounts isok, but when it goes to your head, FORGET IT!
11. I don't believe that anyone can accurately describe love. There are so many different types oflove andthen we place conditions on it. We make love complicated when it should be simple!
12. Volume? understatement! Love has much power and if we could get over ourselves maybe we will see what the trueness of trueloveis all about!
Itsnot good to let thingslay up inside of you. Take it from me who does it! I try to let it out more often but I still catch it after the needle hit red zone. Dont have a meltdown bro, deal with it!
The anger is gone!
If there was just one person in the world for me, I'd be miserable. Part of what helps me get by is knowing that somewhere out there is yet another Mr. Right.
I don't think there's a time frame for sex, if you both can handle it, then start bustin...I saw that movie Evan almighty and there was a scene where " God" said that if you pray for something he doesn't just give it to you, he gives you the opportunity to get or accomplish what you asked for ( If you pray for courage, he doesnt give you courage, but the opportunity to be courageous)...yeah, maybe you need some sex to get rid of the anger...
I'm not an ambassador for Atlanta nightlife, but I don't think there's anything like that here, if he's looking for a lounge type place, you all may just need to do drinks at a lil gay friendly cafe...Einstein's and some others...
What a beautiful entry. So deep and delicious. I would like to respond…
I think there are people who are meant to be in our lives at different times, but I do believe that there is that one special person we are meant to share our lives with. We may not, however, know the person or when the person is meant to be in our lives but instead we have to be open to the journey and the people God sends to us on this journey.
I have deeply held beliefs and values that influence my life and govern the way I treat people.
You should wait 90 days before having sex with someone you just meet with whom you would like a relationship. With friends you have known, there should be no pre-imposed limit, but appropriate discresion should be used.
There are no upscale gay clubs in Atlanta. There are, however, upscale house parties. Drop me a line. I will get you in the know.
Toni Braxton said “Love is found way down in the trenches/When he's throwin a fit
And she is sittin there crying/We tear it up/To patch it up/Break up/To make up
The show goes round and round/And that how we get down/We go back and forth
And anyone who goes through this should know/That what i am saying is for real
Real love is meant this way.”
You can have love without drama, but it is rare, love. It is rare.
Continue your quest and share your findings.
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